Research points to the fact that “emotions coordinate our behavioral and physiological states.” Different bodies react differently to different emotions. A neuroscientist Candace Pert says that “your body is your subconscious mind.” Dr. Pert argues that different emotions send different messages to the body and may lead to a nervous system imbalance. Due to various emotions, people feel different bodily reactions such as headaches, tingling hands and feet, stress and anxiety, depression, muscular pain, cramps, abdominal pain, diarrhea, and a sudden urge to urinate or defecate. There are many ways we can strengthen the emotional intelligence so that we can ensure our well-being both during childhood and adulthood.
Kids should be given tools to manage negative emotions
Everyone feels negative emotions the elders as well as children. We should not hide these things from children as there is no such thing as negative emotions. Children should be aware of what kind of feelings they go through. They should know about all different types of emotions. Kids should be told and taught how to manage emotions on their own so that when a stressful situation arises, they will be well aware of ways to deal with it. We can help kids identify appropriate reactions to strong emotions. It will calm them down and assist them in overcoming anger, stress, and anxiety.
One should be aware how to reflect on their emotions
It is essential that we are teaching our kids about emotions and how to deal with different emotions. They might tell you that they are feeling something, but they usually don’t know what that something is. One will express their feelings only when they see that they will not be invalidated but someone will listen to their feelings. One should be given the space to handle the feelings on their own so that later on they can discuss it with you that what’s bothering them. Especially children find it difficult to open up or express themselves. So we should give them some space to calm down first so that they can express themselves in a better way. Once we learn how to deal with such emotions in childhood, we would have a stronger hold on our emotions when we grow up.
Know when it’s time to let go
Strengthening kids’ emotional intelligence also means empowering them to make their own decisions. This way they can start handling things by themselves. Helping your children explore different reactions or solutions to any given situation supports good decision-making. This emotional intelligence in early age is so beneficial that when one reaches their teenage and adulthood, they have much better control on their emotions which can affect their wellbeing.
One should know when to walk away
One should understand that it’s better to walk away from the issues that cause stress and anxiety. There are many situations which we need to handle and confront instead of avoiding them. But one should always know when to walk away. Even kids should be able to differentiate. Strengthening kids’ emotional intelligence can help them live fuller and better lives.